A reader asked me why does Delilah stay and can’t we get rid of Andre at this point. I knew deep down why she wanted to stay but I couldn’t explain it out loud. After digging through the internet I found the exact wording – “pro-social” altruistic. The word itself says so much and it’s depth of meaning is exactly what is happening.
When a partner who wants to leave sees the other partner needs the other in their life (even if they aren’t romantically in love with them) the initial partner makes a “pro-social” altruistic decision to stay. This has nothing to do with kids or financial but a human behavior. A bad behavior, but it there is nothing to go to or see that they can get their needs somewhere else, the initial partner will stay in an undesirable situation. I needed to shine a light on this behavior because I see it happen so much and you may scream at me, get her out of there, but i won’t. not until this behavior is “cured” or she’ll end up going back.
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Your author, Sylvia Hubbard